Genital Herpies? WTF?

[shot420]

I met this really cool chick about a month ago. Things have gone slow.....kind of what I needed after some shitty relationships. Over the weekend she spent the night with me and things were great until I was about to go downtown on her. She stopped me and wanted to talk. "do you want the good news or the bad news" she says. I am expexting her to say she is on her rag or something along that line. She has GENITAL HERPIES(bad news) and has not had an outbreak for 2 years(supposed good news) because of meds she is on. Needless to say things kind of haulted there. We spent the rest of the night together and most of the next day as well. Do I run like hell? Can I protect myself? I really like her alot but what is a guy to do?
I told her it said alot for her character to tell me and I was very thankfull she did. I did some research but really what would you do?

[GentlemanGym]

There is or was a member here with a lot of experience with genital herpes and STD's in general. Maybe shoot him a PM? Changnam is the guy

[krazylarry]

You already answered you own question by hanging out with her the next day.

[Enigma]

I met this really cool chick about a month ago. Things have gone slow.....kind of what I needed after some shitty relationships. Over the weekend she spent the night with me and things were great until I was about to go downtown on her. She stopped me and wanted to talk. "do you want the good news or the bad news" she says. I am expexting her to say she is on her rag or something along that line. She has GENITAL HERPIES(bad news) and has not had an outbreak for 2 years(supposed good news) because of meds she is on. Needless to say things kind of haulted there. We spent the rest of the night together and most of the next day as well. Do I run like hell? Can I protect myself? I really like her alot but what is a guy to do?
I told her it said alot for her character to tell me and I was very thankfull she did. I did some research but really what would you do?

You wont get it unless it is during an outbreak. But i still wouldnt go down on her. She needs to find someone who also has it and you need to find someone who is clean. Props to her for telling you though.

[VitaA1]

Not worth it...I would find someone clean like yourself...Why do you want to put yourself thru this...do you want to wear a rubber always? Even though you dont see any herpes sores doesn't mean she isn't contatious.. seriously dude, walk away.

[T-Bone]

Everyone has baggage, some emotional, some physical, some mental and some medical.

Depends on how much you like the girl. I mean, you never know how she got it. May have had a bf cheat on her in the past and now pays for the rest of her life.

Its a pretty hard one to deal with I guess. You hung out with her the next day. I have heard of people that are married where one has it, the other doesnt. Could always speak to a doctor about the risks. Get a proper opinion.

[Mogul]

Could always speak to a doctor about the risks. Get a proper opinion.

I agree with T-Bone. That's the sensible thing to do.

[Sadie]

theoretically you can get it even if she isnt having an outbreak (or so the commercials say) but definitely during an outbreak. You could also never get it.. its a great thing that she was honest which some unfortunately arent ya know? I was with a guy for 7 yrs who told me he had it 5 years into the relationship. i never got it but it did explain why there were times he just refused to do anything sexual (outbreak i assume) all i know is he should thank god i didnt get it because i believe i would have been forced to end his life (yes i am sure i dont have it..we broke up 6 years ago lol)

A doctor can give you better info than any of us so just call your GP (or if you arent comfortable maybe a clinic) and ask.. good luck

[reborn72]

Genital Herpes isn't an indictment on the person carrying the disease. First of all, she sounds like a real stand up chick by telling you. That really took some consideration and that is an awesome quality to find in a female. She is on meds, unlike some gutter skank who could care less, she is obviously on top of her situation.
Once upon a time I would have said "just push on and find someone who doesn't have herpes" but I am older and a little wiser? more compassionate? The girl seems to have some potential and the herpes is just an unfortunate hurdle. If she is potential wife material go for it, if she is just another steady fuck along the way, then move on.

[DrB2K]

Genital Herpes isn't an indictment on the person carrying the disease. First of all, she sounds like a real stand up chick by telling you. That really took some consideration and that is an awesome quality to find in a female. She is on meds, unlike some gutter skank who could care less, she is obviously on top of her situation.
Once upon a time I would have said "just push on and find someone who doesn't have herpes" but I am older and a little wiser? more compassionate? The girl seems to have some potential and the herpes is just an unfortunate hurdle. If she is potential wife material go for it, if she is just another steady fuck along the way, then move on.

I agree. She could have just banged you and hoped for the best or not cared and done it anyway. Sounds like a standup chick.

[Thiago]

Are you serious with this question? If you are fine with the possibility of catching it then stay with her. If catching the disease concerns you then you should move on.

[TheManlord]

lol Changnam, the STD pro, very funny gentlemangym. I personally prefer to wrestle with MMA fighters who have ebola then aids however, least i can die fast and get it over with. anyways straight up, girl has herpies, dont do it, there is TONS of other women out there who dont have it, why would you play with that fire. you just have a bit of test in your system and you need to get your rocks off in someone, pick another hole bud, a cleaner one. trust me. I have a number of buds who got herpies from girls i know, not cool.

[LostPowerLifter]

if you see yourself with this chick in 10 years then go for it, if not ditch her. Regarding the first part of my comment, wait until marriage before you fuck her so you know you are serious. Can't do that then pop smoke.

[T-Bone]

I just googled this. Apparently 1 in 5 women have it. At the end of the day its a cold sore. 80% of people carry the type 1, which is cold sores on the face. Its just the social stigma that type 2 carries.

Anyway, if she is on meds and hasnt had an outbreak for 2 years the chances of you get it are next to none. Use a rubber and the chances are pretty much non-existant.

If this girl is marriage material and there is next to no chance of getting it stick with her. I mean, Saide was with a guy for years and never got it. There are lots of other people in the same situation.

If it's an hurdle you cant get over then you cant get past it and move on.

[ericraven2003]

One of my best friends got herpes when she was date raped during college. She said it has made starting relationships almost impossible. I feel so bad for her.

[LostPowerLifter]

One of my best friends got herpes when she was date raped during college. She said it has made starting relationships almost impossible. I feel so bad for her.

is she hot? Either way she probably just needs to lower her standards. If she is an 8 she can't pull other 8's or however she can probably still get a solid 6 that will be happy to snag an 8.

You get the logic, pass it on to her, she'll be fine.

[Anomeley]

is she hot? Either way she probably just needs to lower her standards. If she is an 8 she can't pull other 8's or however she can probably still get a solid 6 that will be happy to snag an 8.

You get the logic, pass it on to her, she'll be fine.

Physical traits or financial? Your rating system I mean. Few have both, most have neither a some have one or the other. Who want's an Adonis that delivers pizza? Bounces? Works behind a bar? For anything other than a temporary stint and bragging rights if that's their thing I mean. Food for thought.

[LostPowerLifter]

Physical traits or financial? Your rating system I mean. Few have both, most have neither a some have one or the other. Who want's an Adonis that delivers pizza? Bounces? Works behind a bar? For anything other than a temporary stint and bragging rights if that's their thing I mean. Food for thought.

It's all a sliding scale based on what you are looking for. You can rate/weigh looks, money, personality based on where you are at.

Considering she has the herp, she is probably looking for a LTR so that would be where she came from.

But point taken.

[ericraven2003]

is she hot? Either way she probably just needs to lower her standards. If she is an 8 she can't pull other 8's or however she can probably still get a solid 6 that will be happy to snag an 8.

You get the logic, pass it on to her, she'll be fine.

How old are you dude? 10.
Keep your fucking idiotic advice to yourself.

[neils1153]

You wont get it unless it is during an outbreak. But i still wouldnt go down on her. She needs to find someone who also has it and you need to find someone who is clean. Props to her for telling you though.

nope, HSV just like HPV can be passed even if the peson does not have an active outbreak... there are two schools of thought on the matter of the HPV/HSV virus... one believes once you have it, its in your skin for life, the other thinks eventually given enough time your body will develop an immunity to it, and clear it from your body... if you really LOVE this gal, make your choice, but if she is just a date etc. i would stay away because most likely you will contract the virus even if you use a condom ie. "pubic area/thighs etc."... the shitty thing is even if you sleep with her and never, ever have an outbreak, later on if you sleep with someone else you can spread the HSV virus...

dont take my word for it however, speak with a medical professional... my info was learned in medical classes not google, there is so much silly info on the internet concerning the matter...

[neils1153]

I just googled this. Apparently 1 in 5 women have it. At the end of the day its a cold sore. 80% of people carry the type 1, which is cold sores on the face. Its just the social stigma that type 2 carries.

Anyway, if she is on meds and hasnt had an outbreak for 2 years the chances of you get it are next to none. Use a rubber and the chances are pretty much non-existant.

If this girl is marriage material and there is next to no chance of getting it stick with her. I mean, Saide was with a guy for years and never got it. There are lots of other people in the same situation.

If it's an hurdle you cant get over then you cant get past it and move on.

watch the Valtrex commercial bud
these things can stay dormant in the skin forever, yet still infect someone else... if you get it, yes its not the end of the world, but........ if you dont stay with that partner you are faced with a harsh/hard decision... do you tell future partners or lie to them??? either way its a hard pill to swallow... there are alot of uninfected gals out there, go get one...

[LostPowerLifter]

How old are you dude? 10.
Keep your fucking idiotic advice to yourself.

little order then 10, just throwing out there, wasn't trying to offend you. I think it's funny you tell me to keep my opinion to myself on an open forum but cheers, no offense intended.

[TheManlord]

simply put bro go find another broad.

[TheManlord]

somehow if things dont work out in the long run. your out of a relationship, with some serious baggage that will effect any future relationships you have. its a lot different when a guy with herpies is looking for a girlfriend then a girl who has herpies that is looking for a boyfriend. all serious factors.

I have to say what a strange feeling it would be to actually reach that point, when you know she has it, and your about to have unprotected sex, just like that lady gaga song. Want your desease.Very strange moment it would be.

[TheManlord]

also guys who do a lot of steroids, have a lower immune system, basic knoweladge. especially people who stay on gear year round. when an outbreak occurs on someone who has a lowered immune system, you get a much more intense outbreak. so many factors just lead towards you needing to run

[shortz]

You wont get it unless it is during an outbreak. But i still wouldnt go down on her. She needs to find someone who also has it and you need to find someone who is clean. Props to her for telling you though.

That is not entirely true. The liklihood of contracting herpes is very low without a break out, but it's still possible. I think there is like a 5% chance or something like that.

I have been in a similar situation twice. One with a girl that had herpes and another with HPV. Both told me they had it, and I gave them the utmost respect for telling me, but, they were completely understanding when I told them that I just could not take the risk without knowing whether or not I would spend the rest of my life with them.

[shot420]

Thanks guys....lots to think about. I go see my doc on the 26th of this month so I will get his oppinion. Why does this crap have to happen! Fuck my life....gotta get on cycle and get some frustration out!!!!

[ericraven2003]

little order then 10, just throwing out there, wasn't trying to offend you. I think it's funny you tell me to keep my opinion to myself on an open forum but cheers, no offense intended.

Sorry bro. Just when you were saying that, you are talking about one of my best friends that was raped.

[LostPowerLifter]

Sorry bro. Just when you were saying that, you are talking about one of my best friends that was raped.

that whole situation is unfortunate.

[Tripp]

Dude, keep on truckin. Tell her you appreciate her being honest with you, even if it was RIGHT before you stuck your tongue in her vagina, but you have to pass. Be her friend afterward if need be, but find another piece of ass. Its not worth it dude, come on! That is a life of hell, I have a friend that contracted it from some skanky bitch he banged a few times during spring break. He's fine when he takes his meds, when he can AFFORD his meds! Not worth it!

[Thiago]

This guy is actually considering it. Going to the doc on the 26th? pfft!!

[neils1153]

your choice but a DR. is going to tell you pretty much what i, and others just told you man...

[ALIN]

I met this really cool chick about a month ago. Things have gone slow.....kind of what I needed after some shitty relationships. Over the weekend she spent the night with me and things were great until I was about to go downtown on her. She stopped me and wanted to talk. "do you want the good news or the bad news" she says. I am expexting her to say she is on her rag or something along that line. She has GENITAL HERPIES(bad news) and has not had an outbreak for 2 years(supposed good news) because of meds she is on. Needless to say things kind of haulted there. We spent the rest of the night together and most of the next day as well. Do I run like hell? Can I protect myself? I really like her alot but what is a guy to do?
I told her it said alot for her character to tell me and I was very thankfull she did. I did some research but really what would you do?

I know myself I would go a different direction. Sooner or later its going to be a hot topic in your relationship.

[Hank]

If you like her as much as you say, do you think you can lay of the sex until the 26th?

[shot420]

I can.....just the thought of having something for life scares the fuck outta me. I am pretty sure the direction I will go even if she is a great chick.

[LostPowerLifter]

I can.....just the thought of having something for life scares the fuck outta me. I am pretty sure the direction I will go even if she is a great chick.

just enjoy the blow jobs until then. If she wants something in return tell her until you talk to your doctors all your willing to do is suck on her titties......

Win-win.

Good luck.

[shot420]

just enjoy the blow jobs until then. If she wants something in return tell her until you talk to your doctors all your willing to do is suck on her titties......

Win-win.

Good luck.

lmfao!!!!!

[deathknell3000]

Assume that she is your typical woman......

After you have invested your whole heart and soul in her, she changes her mind on a whim and dumps you.

During your time together, she infects you. You didn't care because you thought that the two of you would be together forever.

Now she is gone and you have this disease for life...... along with all the stigma that goes with it. Everytime you meet a new woman you're interested in, you have to agonize about when is the right time to tell her about your condition.

So what are you going to do?

[Philthy]

Assume that she is your typical woman......

After you have invested your whole heart and soul in her, she changes her mind on a whim and dumps you.

During your time together, she infects you. You didn't care because you thought that the two of you would be together forever.

Now she is gone and you have this disease for life...... along with all the stigma that goes with it. Everytime you meet a new woman you're interested in, you have to agonize about when is the right time to tell her about your condition.

So what are you going to do?

THIS! x1000000

[shot420]

Time to move on!!! LOts of fish in the sea