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swinger clubs/ parties
I have been tempted to attend a swingers party or club. Anybody have any positives or negatives on this subject?
update:well , we decided not to attend to these type of clubs. Just don't want to chance it, been together for so long.
We really did not want to participate just wanted to watch as in live porn, but than again that just may be the start and eventually one might be tempted.
Last edited by markmark; 08-02-2011 at 05:00 PM. Reason: update
I think its cool bro and are you and your wife/gf doing it? I have never but have always wanted to check it out, get ready to be ridiculed on here because this has been brought up before and you will get a lot of mixed emotions on here but stand your ground and listen to both sides. I think that Anomely has been involved in this some and a few other bros on here so good luck, there is nothign wrong with adding spice to your relationship!
Juiceman
not my cup of tea to see my ole lady banged by some other dude....but whatever floats your boat? seems like a good way to turn your girl into a whore
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That is usually there already, just waiting to get out.
I say try it once though and see how you like it.
W.W.J.D.? = what would juicers do?
Actually we just want to watch, flirt and touch. Don't feel like we have to engage in sex.
if you 2 makes clear of your boundaries and respect it then Im sure you can have fun.
go for it.
Id feel a little inadequate if the Mrs needed some other guy to get her off. Each to their own, good luck with it.
Go for it. Nothing wrong could possibly come from your significant other copping it from other guys.
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Thats like a 15 yr old in a circle of teenagers smoking pot saying hes just gonna be the guy to help carry the bong around the circle but not smoke it.
lol. temptation will be my down fall.
You going alone or taking a girlfriend or wife.
Ive seen these type things RUIN relationships
so be real careful.
Leave your girl at home and pay some whore to go with you. If your just going to watch, its not cheating.
One thing is for sure and there can be ZERO jealousy in your relationship, nobody says that if you go to a club that you have to do anything. Every swinging dick on this board burns up the porn section and loves to watch or see everybodys women but dont want anybody seeing his, there is so many options and only you and her can make the decision on what you do. Whats funny is all these guys are talking shit but you can damn sure bet if you went and you two took a woman home with you and had a 3sum then they would all be on here patting you on the back!
Juiceman
True. Very true.
I've done it and I would do it again.....but not with someone I respected or loved. There are several reasons why. First, if you swing with another couple, you will be hard pressed to find another couple that fits BOTH of your likings. Either she will be WAY into the guy and you will be like "Meh" about the chick or vice versa. As far as threesomes, I doubt you would want to do the MMF "Devil's threesome". Most guys don't. We all want FFM threesomes. Few women actually get into FFM threesomes. They are just doing it for your benefit so they just go through the motions. It's not genuine. Also, once you open this door you can't close it. She will either really like it or really dislike it, no middle ground. If she really likes swinging, she will swing without you. If she hates it, she will think you are swinging without her.
My point: if she is a "keeper", don't do it. If not, try it and see. Not too many couples can manage the jealousy and commitment issues that go along with swinging though. It is human nature to want your mate all to yourself if you really care about them. If she is not wife material, knock yourself out!
Very good point, and yeah there is no middle ground. I have friends that do it and they both love it, on the other hand I do think she would do it without him but he wouldnt her so yeah it would be cool to do but dont make your main squeeze your swinging partner
Juiceman
She is a keeper, she has been my wife for 20+ yrs. Have been into porn and stuff but this swinging thing is like live porn. A turn on for both of us.
She is leaving the decision up to me, since I'm the one pushing it.
These clubs don't require members to participate in any sexual act, so I feel safe to say the pressure will not be there.
yeah go and watch and have a good time. At risk of sounding like a kill-joy...decide what's "ok" before you get there so neither of you is upset. Any long term couples I know who still play from time to time have said they did that in the beginning.
It'll be more relaxed the more you do it if you decide to do it again but there is nothing wrong with treading carefully when you are talking about a 20year marriage and your life partner!
I agree with the guys who say the relationship has to be strong and you and she BOTH have to be secure in yourselves and in the relationship...what I don't like is when people who say they couldn't handle aspects of it are made to feel like they are some how lacking or insecure when the truth is...it's not for everybody.
I've done some things similar within a relationship that had a history of boundaries being overstepped and I agreed partly because I wanted to face fears of what I thought was eventually going to happen in the relationship anyway...I used it as a way of fast forwarding to the onset of bullshit...if the bullshit was going to arise. That probably doesn't make sense but anyway...I lived and it was fun in retrospect.
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Exactly true. My sister in law just got divorced because she was so disgusted with herself. Her and Hubby did it for about 5 years and one day she woke up and couldn't stand herself anymore. She still has issues over it. I think it is a terrible idea for a normal couple. Might as well stay single if you want to do this.
I wouldn't. I don't think it is anything to be proud of. This is coming from someone who fucked everything that walked in my 20's. People grow up.
All she has to do is buy some piano wire, find a tall tree, and do the right thing.....
i think private parties are ok but the clubs are usually just nasty.
pushy unattractive people all over the place and if you are a good looking couple they will swarm your ass like you dont even want to think about lol
find a party lol
fyi if you are "pushing" this then it almost certainly will NOT end well.. just saying..
Last edited by Sadie; 05-19-2010 at 01:00 AM. Reason: i kept reading and answered my own question
So you've done it?
Wow...All she has to do is buy some piano wire, find a tall tree, and do the right thing.....
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My input ( BTW, I'm back fellas)
My best friend and I (guy) both went to bed with my girl and it was the sexiest night of my life. I have had foursomes where couples fuck along side eachother and the girls touch, play, I've fucked for an audience, but here she was between us and it was amazing. I loved seeing her as a sexual object.
I love her so much and adore her so much that any minute of the day I will be holding her on a pedestal of greatness, but that night, it wasnt, it was degradation, It was another man getting the ultimate enjoyment form MY girl. It was her making two guys cum at one time, she was a sex goddess that night. She screamed and moaned till I crammed dick in her mouth, he slowed down behind her doggy style and she started to melt onto the mattress and I got underneath her and sucked her nipples and rubbed her clit, once he sped up again and started pounding her I started fucking her mouth, we came all over her tight body.
Our boundries were no kissing, no oral, no missionary, no eye contact, no caress, strictly FUCKING, Spanking and fingering was ok, tasting fingers was ok ( he had to see what she taste like)
If you don't like my fire, then don't come around, cause I'm gonna burn one down.
"If chicken fingers are from chicken's fingers and chicken wings are from chicken's wings, well then chicken breasts are from chicken's breasts... where are the chicken nuggets from?"
my ex husband and i were swinger while dating and while married. no its not why we are divorced... by the end of the marriage that was just about the only time we did not fight..but yes we did it... people are insane and most that try SHOULDNT we eventually found a very cool stable couple and just hung out with them to avoid all the dramatic psychos
I think I just threw up in my mouth a bit. 2 guys and girl. Total yuck. Watching my wife fuck someone else, hell I would rather slit my wrist. Well, everyone likes different things.
TO EACH HIS OWN. I think anal is degrading for a wife, and more homosexual then sharing a woman between men. I think Male anal stimulation by women is still gay. Just not out of the closet gay.
However I think getting your salad tossed by a girl is hot.
I would not lick a girls ass though...
Point being, every one persons triggers are different. If your wife and you differ as much as ericraven and I, then this is a bad idea!
If you don't like my fire, then don't come around, cause I'm gonna burn one down.
"If chicken fingers are from chicken's fingers and chicken wings are from chicken's wings, well then chicken breasts are from chicken's breasts... where are the chicken nuggets from?"
Yes totally. If my wife wanted to fuck another guy, we would be in divorce court, and its only fair that I wouldn't fuck another woman.
As far as the homosexual thing I disagree, if you are aroused by watching another man, no matter what he is doing, well, you know the duck thing.........
BUT whatever works for you.
I think anyman can be involved in FFM but MMF or group/swing is few and far between. It takes one of 3 things, either Bisexual guys, Sexual perverts who will fuck or are desperate to fuck under any circumstance, or, lastly, a Man who knows he has ALL the power, say so and confidence in himself and the situation and has no question of where his orientation or devotion lies.
You can not pigeon whole any guy who has shared a girl, watched a couple fuck, or been involved in a groupsex GAY, there are probably a majority of homosexuals who think that sharing a woman is the furthest thing from gay... theyd probably ask you why have the girl in the first place.
Putting sexual orientation tags on sexuality or fetishes makes people affraid of exploring them because of stigmas and dogma,
We should be able (within the extent of law ( not motherfucking pedophiles)) explore that which sexually stimulates our thoughts and fantasies, without being afraid of labels. His genuine concern is how it will affect the relationship, that's legitimate, but if he can't even explore it because now he will fear a label, or scrutiny that's fucked up.
Honestly, I dont think people will ask questions, take advice or be open to opinion if they think that people will start yelling FAG. or DYKE, or PERVERT, or Sociopath, or deviant.
Apply something towards the benefit of his questions, dont embarrass people into hiding and then leave them to make mistakes they could have long been forwarded of.
JUST MY OPINION
If you don't like my fire, then don't come around, cause I'm gonna burn one down.
"If chicken fingers are from chicken's fingers and chicken wings are from chicken's wings, well then chicken breasts are from chicken's breasts... where are the chicken nuggets from?"
You didn't suck your best friend's nut out of her after he finished, did you?
wow there are some hypocritical narrow minded comments in here.. think ill be done with this thread now.. OP good luck with whatever you guys decide
You guys should be fine but nothing is for sure. I think you should do what you want with YOUR lives but keep an eye on the both of you if you do indulge.
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uh huh....I have friends who have been married 20+ years and are now divorcing....time is no indicator on how strong your marriage is....but maybe wanting to do other people is?
I dunno.
Be nice, I'm elderly.
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So true.
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I always enjoy these threads
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i was waiting for you to chime in here...
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Well, they (the threads) always get out of hand when we get on this topic. The bottom line is that it isn't for insecure people or people with jealousy issues. It doesn't mean either that you don't love or respect your better half. It's typically the insecure and jealous types that throw that one out there first. The worst thing about the lifestyle is that at least in my experience there just are not that many fit attractive couples out there and there are always guys (and girls) looking to upgrade and try to hook up outside of the parameters you might set. Other than that it's a lot of fun. There is a huge difference between sex and love. They are not the same things. I like to call it what it is and that is either recreational sex or sport fu*cks. Mark PM me if you like and we can talk.
"If you want things in life most people don't have then you have to be willing to do things most people won't do."
"When you go through tragedy, you can either let that destroy you and you become bitter and never let it go, or you can let it make you stronger and let it make you grow. That's what I did."
Swingin is cool in theory but in real there is hardly ever equal exchange I.e. if your girls is so damn good why don't you fuck her
Swing clubs are usually a disappointment. Either you got ugly couple who are too fugly to shopping or you got single guys. I don't put up
with people showin up empty handed at bbq let alone swing club
Even in an ideal situation with an even swap, there is post ejaculation syndrome. You know that mood swing and moment of clarity that comes after shootin a load?
As long as you're knee deep in some other guys wife who cares what your wife is doing? You bust a nut or two and you think you're done but no, some jackhole is busy plowin your lady and you can leave when he's done. Fuck that!
Swingin is for friends not couples....too many complications. My two cents
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Good post.
I never have liked your definition here. You make it sound as if people who choose NOT to swing are insecure and/or have jealousy issues.
You can't just make that statement as if it were a fact. They are not the same thing in your opinion. To some they can be integral.
Last edited by HangNin; 05-23-2010 at 02:27 PM.
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