Farewell IronMike - Page 3

Ashley · 08-30-2007, 11:06 AM

RIP and I wish his family and friends, my condolences.

**Jimmy Valmer** · 08-30-2007, 11:15 AM

I'm in shock. I don't know what to say.

Jimmy

Daddio · 08-30-2007, 11:20 AM

But I am sooo sorry for your loss.

I send out the best vibe I got... may he find rest and enjoy the rest of his "journey"...

NOT to hi-jack... but my gorgeous wife and mother of my 3 kids that I've been married to and worshipped for the last 20 years, just out of the blue announced she's tired of being married and leaving "us"...

I've considered the same "option"... it's easy when your brain chems ain't right... and extreme duress can do that to ya...

Modern Society is so fucked up... especially since we've eliminated the "bad" guy...

So the "victim" usually bears the brunt... as the "crazy" one...etc.

Sorry for the hijack...and the little rant.

But no good human deserves this...

SORRY!

Daddio

mike57 · 08-30-2007, 12:53 PM

Very sad news. When I hear about these things it affects me deeply even though I didn't know him. R.I.P. Iron MIke.

bearcat · 08-30-2007, 01:58 PM

Man, this is truly tragic. I can't believe with all these great accolades he's getting in this thread that I never had any encounters with him. Based on what you all are saying it sounds like I really missed out on a great brother.

My prayers are with his friends and family

bearcat · 08-30-2007, 01:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Daddio

But I am sooo sorry for your loss.

I send out the best vibe I got... may he find rest and enjoy the rest of his "journey"...

NOT to hi-jack... but my gorgeous wife and mother of my 3 kids that I've been married to and worshipped for the last 20 years, just out of the blue announced she's tired of being married and leaving "us"...

I've considered the same "option"... it's easy when your brain chems ain't right... and extreme duress can do that to ya...

Modern Society is so fucked up... especially since we've eliminated the "bad" guy...

So the "victim" usually bears the brunt... as the "crazy" one...etc.

Sorry for the hijack...and the little rant.

But no good human deserves this...

SORRY!

Daddio

Daddio, that's awful. You're right in that it's not respectful to hijack this thread but please start your own thread right away in the OT forum so people can offer you the support you need right now.

Peace

gronkboy · 08-30-2007, 02:10 PM

You may be gone, but you will never be forgotten. Rest in peace, IronMike.

BBisLife · 08-30-2007, 02:44 PM

One of the absolute BEST guys around. I am in shock.

RIP brother

deliverme · 08-30-2007, 03:08 PM

i so hate these times..... rip IronMike ... your name will not be forgotten on here ... deepest sympathy's

taba · 08-30-2007, 03:34 PM

To a fellow brother BBer , Much Respect and my Condolences.

Hank · 08-30-2007, 03:57 PM

I'm sorry to hear this. It puts knots in my stomach. May you R.I.P IM!!!!!

HangNin · 08-30-2007, 04:06 PM

I only knew him from his posts, but seeing how much you guys loved and respected him is very moving and such a tribute to him.

Rest in Peace IronMike.

dover · 08-30-2007, 04:19 PM

R.i.p.

**Jimmy Valmer** · 08-30-2007, 04:19 PM

I've known him for nearly 8 years.......I still can't believe it. We chated at length a few months back........I know this will sound harsh, but part of me is wishing this is a dream or something. He's a mate. I knew he was down, but I didn't see this coming. I don't think anyone did.

Jimmy

3D-Nutrition · 08-30-2007, 04:24 PM

A testament to the man IronMike was: A few years ago there was quite a heated debate between us American guys and The Aussie bro's about our militaries, and it got out of hand quickly, and I said a few things I regret. IronMike PM'ed me, and with very few words made me realize we are all in this together, and how ridiculous I was acting. I respected that man with all my heart from that day forward. He was a hero among us, and I will miss him greatly. Rest in Peace, IronMike, I hope you found the peace you were looking for.

Solid43 · 08-30-2007, 04:27 PM

Don't want to just 'do a head trip' on this tragedy, but it is important, especially for those of you who were his friends, and wish he had said something..or wish you could have done something.. There was nothing you could do. There is a kind of 'classic suicidal' personality, and it has a lot to do with early experiences of rejection (talking the first three years of life here) and that perceived rejection at such a vulnerable and trusting age leaves a psychic wound that never really heals. Every rejection is anticipated and contributes to the already badly wounded self image.. Not about how big you are, or how powerfully built.. its about how you feel about yourself inside.. and that 'classic' personality believes him or her self to be flatly unworthy of love and genuine respect. No words anyone can say are ever adequate enough to make up for what was lacking when that person was too young to any way cope with the evil that was done to them....lots written on the subject, and lots of perfectly sane reasons why bodybuilders would fit so easily into the mold. Hopefully the peace and happiness he felt so deprived of here..will be restored elsewhere.

nitro · 08-30-2007, 04:44 PM

Even though i am new and didn't know IM this is very sad.

RAAM · 08-30-2007, 04:58 PM

My condolences to his family and aussie friends. I didn't know him but sounds to me like he was one helluva guy. So sad.

**Hound_Dog** · 08-30-2007, 05:47 PM

This is a very very sad event for Australian BodyBuilding. IM was a genuinley caring guy who put a lot of time into this board and as a matter of fact is the sole reason the AC exists. His legacy will last a long time.

RIP Hamish

Lurker · 08-30-2007, 05:48 PM

Just read this. Can't believe it. Rest in Peace bro.

Outback Jack · 08-30-2007, 05:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Solid43

Don't want to just 'do a head trip' on this tragedy, but it is important, especially for those of you who were his friends, and wish he had said something..or wish you could have done something.. There was nothing you could do. There is a kind of 'classic suicidal' personality, and it has a lot to do with early experiences of rejection (talking the first three years of life here) and that perceived rejection at such a vulnerable and trusting age leaves a psychic wound that never really heals. Every rejection is anticipated and contributes to the already badly wounded self image.. Not about how big you are, or how powerfully built.. its about how you feel about yourself inside.. and that 'classic' personality believes him or her self to be flatly unworthy of love and genuine respect. No words anyone can say are ever adequate enough to make up for what was lacking when that person was too young to any way cope with the evil that was done to them....lots written on the subject, and lots of perfectly sane reasons why bodybuilders would fit so easily into the mold. Hopefully the peace and happiness he felt so deprived of here..will be restored elsewhere.

I agree with this. I actually fall into this category myself, unfortunately, as do other people I have known in the past who have taken their life. I've known several people have taken their own life despite going through significant counselling, anti-depressants etc. Life isn't always smooth sailing for anyone, but life is much more difficult for very sensitive people. It is the most sensitive of souls and often the nicest people who take their own lives, unfortunately. R.I.P IronMike.

08-30-2007, 02:10 PM	#87 (permalink)
gronkboy Senior Member gronkboy's Stats Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 2,789 Status: Offline gronkboy's Info Location: Having a box lunch at the "Y" Country:	You may be gone, but you will never be forgotten. Rest in peace, IronMike.
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08-30-2007, 03:08 PM	#89 (permalink)
deliverme Senior Member deliverme's Stats Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 4,104 Status: Offline deliverme's Info Location: on the net .... Country:	i so hate these times..... rip IronMike ... your name will not be forgotten on here ... deepest sympathy's
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08-30-2007, 04:06 PM	#92 (permalink)
HangNin Senior Member HangNin's Stats Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 7,962 Status: Offline HangNin's Info Location: Texas Country:	I only knew him from his posts, but seeing how much you guys loved and respected him is very moving and such a tribute to him. Rest in Peace IronMike.
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08-30-2007, 04:58 PM	#98 (permalink)
RAAM Senior Member RAAM's Stats Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 10,547 Status: Offline RAAM's Info Location: Country:	My condolences to his family and aussie friends. I didn't know him but sounds to me like he was one helluva guy. So sad.
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08-30-2007, 11:06 AM	#81 (permalink)
Ashley Member Ashley's Stats Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 61 Status: Offline Ashley's Info Location: Brisbane Country:	RIP and I wish his family and friends, my condolences.

08-30-2007, 11:15 AM	#82 (permalink)
Jimmy Valmer Moderator Anabolex Mod Jimmy Valmer's Stats Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 608 Status: Offline Jimmy Valmer's Info Location: Country:	I'm in shock. I don't know what to say. Jimmy

08-30-2007, 12:53 PM	#84 (permalink)
mike57 Senior Member mike57's Stats Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 1,437 Status: Online mike57's Info Location: Country:	Very sad news. When I hear about these things it affects me deeply even though I didn't know him. R.I.P. Iron MIke.

08-30-2007, 01:58 PM	#85 (permalink)
bearcat Senior Member bearcat's Stats Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 3,906 Status: Offline bearcat's Info Location: Feeling blue in a red state Country:	Man, this is truly tragic. I can't believe with all these great accolades he's getting in this thread that I never had any encounters with him. Based on what you all are saying it sounds like I really missed out on a great brother. My prayers are with his friends and family

08-30-2007, 02:44 PM	#88 (permalink)
BBisLife New Member BBisLife's Stats Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 2 Status: Offline BBisLife's Info Location: Country:	One of the absolute BEST guys around. I am in shock. RIP brother

08-30-2007, 03:34 PM	#90 (permalink)
taba Senior Member taba's Stats Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 330 Status: Offline taba's Info Location: In the Matrix Country:	To a fellow brother BBer , Much Respect and my Condolences.

08-30-2007, 03:57 PM	#91 (permalink)
Hank Senior Member Hank's Stats Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 8,464 Boobs, Butt or Shoulder? Champion! Whammy Champion! Status: Offline Hank's Info Location: Country:	I'm sorry to hear this. It puts knots in my stomach. May you R.I.P IM!!!!!

08-30-2007, 04:19 PM	#93 (permalink)
dover Senior Member dover's Stats Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 576 Status: Offline dover's Info Location: new hampshire Country:	R.i.p.

08-30-2007, 04:19 PM	#94 (permalink)
Jimmy Valmer Moderator Anabolex Mod Jimmy Valmer's Stats Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 608 Status: Offline Jimmy Valmer's Info Location: Country:	I've known him for nearly 8 years.......I still can't believe it. We chated at length a few months back........I know this will sound harsh, but part of me is wishing this is a dream or something. He's a mate. I knew he was down, but I didn't see this coming. I don't think anyone did. Jimmy

08-30-2007, 04:24 PM	#95 (permalink)
3D-Nutrition Senior Member 3D-Nutrition's Stats Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 1,041 Status: Offline 3D-Nutrition's Info Location: Country:	A testament to the man IronMike was: A few years ago there was quite a heated debate between us American guys and The Aussie bro's about our militaries, and it got out of hand quickly, and I said a few things I regret. IronMike PM'ed me, and with very few words made me realize we are all in this together, and how ridiculous I was acting. I respected that man with all my heart from that day forward. He was a hero among us, and I will miss him greatly. Rest in Peace, IronMike, I hope you found the peace you were looking for.

08-30-2007, 04:27 PM	#96 (permalink)
Solid43 Senior Member Solid43's Stats Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 743 Status: Offline Solid43's Info Location: Country:	Don't want to just 'do a head trip' on this tragedy, but it is important, especially for those of you who were his friends, and wish he had said something..or wish you could have done something.. There was nothing you could do. There is a kind of 'classic suicidal' personality, and it has a lot to do with early experiences of rejection (talking the first three years of life here) and that perceived rejection at such a vulnerable and trusting age leaves a psychic wound that never really heals. Every rejection is anticipated and contributes to the already badly wounded self image.. Not about how big you are, or how powerfully built.. its about how you feel about yourself inside.. and that 'classic' personality believes him or her self to be flatly unworthy of love and genuine respect. No words anyone can say are ever adequate enough to make up for what was lacking when that person was too young to any way cope with the evil that was done to them....lots written on the subject, and lots of perfectly sane reasons why bodybuilders would fit so easily into the mold. Hopefully the peace and happiness he felt so deprived of here..will be restored elsewhere.

08-30-2007, 04:44 PM	#97 (permalink)
nitro Senior Member nitro's Stats Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 343 Status: Offline nitro's Info Location: Country:	Even though i am new and didn't know IM this is very sad.

08-30-2007, 05:47 PM	#99 (permalink)
Hound_Dog Moderator Anabolex Mod Hound_Dog's Stats Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 2,921 Status: Offline Hound_Dog's Info Location: Country:	This is a very very sad event for Australian BodyBuilding. IM was a genuinley caring guy who put a lot of time into this board and as a matter of fact is the sole reason the AC exists. His legacy will last a long time. RIP Hamish

08-30-2007, 05:48 PM	#100 (permalink)
Lurker Senior Member Lurker's Stats Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 2,343 Status: Offline Lurker's Info Location: Country:	Just read this. Can't believe it. Rest in Peace bro.

08-30-2007, 05:56 PM	#102 (permalink)
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